April 18, 2014

Tween Girls…How To Earn The Meanest Mom In The World Award In 5 Simple Words


Yes…I am the Meanest Mom thanks to these 5 words.

No Make-up Worn To School

My daughter is 12 years old. BugMama is the sweetest, kindest and prettiest girl that you could imagine. Of course, I’m prejudice.

Last year the girls were in Private School so there were no options. The rules were very strict regarding makeup, jewelry and even nail polish.

Girls being girls, the infatuation with makeup had started oh way back in probably 1st grade. We have had makeup and nails parties during sleepovers. The girls have even been allowed to were a little bit of makeup on special occassions.

School started last week. On the second day of school I realized in the car on the way to school my BugMama had makeup on. It wasn’t a lot but it was enough to be noticeable.

Basically, eyeshadow (blue of course) and eyeliner was the extent of what she had on. Still, it was too much for me.

I probably should have pulled the car over and made her wipe off her face. I didn’t. It was only the second day of school, a new school, so I didn’t want to start a fight and have her go through the day upset.

When the girls got home I waited until everyone got settled then said those 5 Words:

No Makeup Worn To School

You’d have thought I had said they had to go to school naked! The tears were almost immediate. The objections and agruments were intense.

“everyone else is wearing it”
“it’s only eyeshadow and eyeliner”
“you bought it for me”

and of course the age thing…

“I’m 12 years old!”

Standing firm, I am bestowed the honor of…

“The Meanest Mom in the World”

Now, I have to say, I love having that title. I actually strive to earn the Meanest or Worst Mom in the Universe by year end.

Never said I was completely sane. In my mind, the actions that regularly earn me my glorious title are
actions that show my love for my daughters.

When it comes to makeup I always fall back to the Full House episode when DJ started wearing makeup. Becky ‘s advice is what I use for my daughters and for myself…less is more.

Despite the fact that Bratz Dolls are very popular, I don’t want my daughters to look like one!

The end result with BugMama was a compromise. No blue eyeshadow and a very light line of eyeliner that I have to check before she walks out the door.

What did a compromise accomplish? A point of trust. I explained that I would trust her to follow my guidelines and if saw she couldn’t do that then she would lose all privledges.

I gave her some rope, a limited amount, and waited to see what she would do with it.

The next day, there was a very faint black line under her eyes. Four days later…no makeup at all.

Yeah, Mom rules win one! Unfortunately, my title has been down graded though!

So, for right now I only retain the title of Meanest Mom in North America.

No worries, I am sure by the end of the year I’ll hit the Universe mark!

If you have an opinion about Tweens and makeup please feel free to share it with us!

Have a great day…

Comments

  1. Jenni says:

    I remember having that same fight with my mom when I was in 7th grade! She won, too!

  2. cindy says:

    I had the opposite effect with my daughter. The more I put my foot down on the “no makeup at school” rule, the more she sneaks around and gets it on somehow (whether borrowing from a friend on the bus or stealing my makeup). She actually prefers to be grounded from T.V., cellphone and friends after school than to do without eyeliner. What’s becoming of our girls?

  3. admin says:

    Cindy-I have four girls between 2 and 14! I ask myself the same question when I go to the schools and see some of these girls, what they are wearing (or not wearing), the makeup, etc. It scares me a little that they are growing up too fast.

    I remind my girls that they are 100% responsible for their own actions and who they see when they look in the mirror is the only one that counts!

    Sometimes it’s about self image, sometimes a power struggle and sometimes it’s just being a teen!

    Pick your battles carefully and hold your ground firmly when you choose!

    And, congratulations! Looks like you are definitely in the Meanest New Old Mom Club too!

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