February 4, 2012

The Changed My Life Baby and The Beach Lady

Welcome back! Have you Joined The Club?


Life. It is amazing how you can be chugging along on one path then….BOOM…hair pin turn takes you in a whole different direction.

I am a true believer in this, “God gives you what you can handled in life”. Just sometimes I wonder if he has my mistaken with someone else?

Let me tell you about the Lady at the Beach and how I came up with the New Old Moms Club. Baby Beans loves the beach. She could spend all day everyday there. A few months back, Beans and I had done our walk and decided to play on the sand hill. She calls it HER mountain. As she ran up and down with me following, I had noticed this old woman watching us.

You know when you can just tell when someone has something to say? Well, she did alright. Once again, I have to tell you, people need to turn their brains on before they speak…Click-Power On Please! Well, here’s how the conversation went…

After complimenting me on how beautiful Baby Beans is, she asked with a confused look, “Is she you little ‘change of life’ baby?” Stop right there. I was 43 at the time and in my opinion at least, I didn’t look old enough to be going through my ‘change of life’.

I quickly replied, “No. She was a vacation souvenior but she definitely has CHANGED my life!”. I guess my annoyed expression and sharp tone said what I was really thinking because the woman, slightly red-faced, replied, “Oh, I see. You’re just one of those…New Old Moms.”

Thankfully (for her), Baby Beans scampered off just out of reach so I had to say good bye to my new found enemy to chase after her. I don’t know if at that point I was more angry or embarassed. New Old Mom? What the heck is that supposed to mean anyway? I am a new Mom over 40 but when did 40 become Old?

When I got home and relayed the story to Jack he just laughed. He told me just to ignore it and reassured me that I had had more energy over with four children, businesses, volunteering, coaching and everything else than some 30 year old moms do.

New OLD Mom. The old part still really annoyed me. I can’t say I didn’t wonder when I found out I was pregnant at 40 how all this would work out. I was scared. Again, I do believe everything does happen for a reason in life.

Well, Baby Beans might not have been a ‘change of life’ baby but she sure did change our life completely…all for the better. She gives me motivation, inspiration and whether I want it or not, she keeps my o my toes!

As far as the ‘New Old Mom’ thing, I am a perpertual glass full person. Hence, you are at the New Old Moms Club and will soon have the opportunity to visit the New Old Moms Entrepreneur Club! Don’t forget to check out Fit Moms Over 40, too!

I am celebrating being over 40 as a new mom, an old mom and as a women! Life may take unexpected turns sometimes. Enjoy the path you are on, whatever it may be and embrace who you are at any age!

Mouth On-Brain Off…think before you speak to a pregnant women!


Did you ever wonder if some people’s mouths were actually connected to their brains?

As a New Old Mom I found that when people see a pregnant women somehow, their “brain to mouth” connection just shuts off.

This fact became even more apparent when I become pregnant with my fourth daughter.

Remember, I had just turned 40 when I found out I was pregnant with her. Now this is just my opinion but, I kind of thought I was in pretty good shape and, in my mind at least, I didn’t look 40.

Let me tell you what happened when we finally to decided to tell the girls that I was pregnant and then what happened when they told the very first person.

It was already July. I was scared to tell the girls. I was just starting to show so it had to be done. I hid in the kitchen and made Jack do it. I heard screams from behind the wall. I couldn’t tell it they were good screams or bad screams. I took a big breath and went into the living room.

Well, here is what I was met with: My oldest, 10 at the time was so excited that she couldn’t contain herself. You see, she had said about a week before that she wanted a new baby brother or sister. I told her thanks and next time “be careful what you wish for!”

My middle daughter, 8 years old, was definitely not happy. Her exact words were, “our family is full!”

Now my youngest one, at the time, was 7. She had a confused look on her face and just asked, “I thought we were getting a puppy?” Kids speak from honesty point. I’m OK with that.

Adults, on the other hand, sometime speak from the stupidity point.

The next day at Summer Camp the girls’ excitement to spread the news was uncontrollable despite my concerns. They had to tell someone! Well, it happens that they ran into a mom they knew and blurted the news out before I got a chance to stop them.

Here is what happened next. The mom looked at me. Cocked her head from one side to another then asked, “How old are you anyway?”

I almost hit the floor. I told her I had just turn 40 and tried to brush off the question. She clearly saw how uncomfortable it made me and tried the old “compliment cover up” by saying I didn’t look “that old”.

Was she having a brain-mouth disconnect moment?

I wasn’t quite sure until she then asked me this question: “You’re still coaching Fall Soccer right? I requested you as the coach?”

It was a definite. The power was not on. I wanted to slap her upside of the head and say “Click-power on please!” but at that point it was easier just to smile and walk away.

Over the entire nine month of my pregnancy and to this date, I can tell you for a fact that there are way too many people out there that don’t wake up and click there brain power on. And, in some cases, some people just have wires shorted out.

By the way… my middle daughter has turned out to be the most loving sister of all and the best with the baby in case you were wondering.

So join the club…being a New Old Mom is awesome!

If you’ve ever had someone say something to you that it was clear their power wasn’t on…tell us about! You are definitely not alone!

Have a great one!

New Moms, Old Moms, New Old Moms…


As I scroll through the dictionary definitions of Mom and Mother, I don’t actually see any age requirements listed. That leads me to believe that, within reason, there aren’t any.

I joined the New Old Moms Club right from the get go. Being a bit of a late bloomer, my first daughter was born just after I turned thirty. It was funny because I was exactly thirty years younger than my Mom, too.

Two more little ladies showed up within the next two years and my “mom status” was quickly moving toward just plain “old mom.”

A week in the Dominican Republic catapulted me head first into the ‘New” old mom category. My fourth daughter was born shortly after I turned 40!

My husband wanted to name her Margarita (or ‘one too many’) but my other three girls quickly nixed that idea.

Oh where oh where did the energy I had at thirty go?

My older three daughters are now 11, 12, and 14. The baby is 2 1/2.

I’m not quite sure who is more difficult…the Toddler or the Teen!

Honestly, though, I can’t tell you how special these girls are!

As kids get older we forget how it was when they were small. This little one brings back that flood of memories including those first steps, first words and those sleepless nights!

I thank my lucky stars everyday for my children. They bring light and love into our hearts.

The New Old Moms Club is a place for New Moms (of any age), Old Moms and New Old Moms to gather and share their stories, their questions, their knowledge and their support.

As president of this club, I look forward to opening the doors to many different topics and offering a laugh, a tear or some decent advice where I can!

Thanks for joining me…