New Old Moms Need Play Dates Too!
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New Old Mom Park Play Dates
Baby Beans goes to the park or the beach pretty much every day with her New Old Dad, Jack. There are always lots of kids her age to play with so she loves it. As a two year old (almost three), her social calendar is packed with play dates and parties.
Both my husband and I are pretty social people so we usually find a way to start up a conversation with at least one parent while we are there. What I usually muse at is the variety pack of age groups that we end of socializing with.
Literally, the range of park players can go from teen baby sitters to college age nannies right up to grandparent caregivers. Maybe because of the economy or just the change in the times, the daytime playmates for parents aren’t just that 20-30 year old crowd with the 2.5 children and the white picket fence.
The wide range of caregivers that we come across during the course of any given day is great for keeping up on things from all different perspectives but sometimes it is nice to be able to hang with people that have similar situations and lifestyles. Guess I am looking for a moms/dads over 40 crowd to have play dates of my own with! Finding other New Old Moms/Dads has taken on a life of its own!
Finding other moms over 40 has been an interesting challenge. Doing a local Google search, not much comes up yet I know that the number of new mom over 40 is on the rise. Besides for The New Old Moms Club, there are a few other sites that are geared toward Moms over 40:
These are all excellent sites with great information but I was still looking for more.
I was recently interviewed by a local TV Station, 10 Connects for a story on Blogging For Bucks and I had noticed that right on there site they had a link to a local Moms Group Moms Like Me with a link to a separate local discussion group. A start…cool!
Maybe you might be reading this thinking that I am being a bit picky looking for groups that consist of moms over 40 when, honestly, moms in general tend to have the same issues with kids, parenting, spouses, education and everything else. Not so though. I have definitely found that there are things about being a new mom over 40 that are different than they were when I had my first three girls at 30.
First of all, when I became pregnant at 40, people in general found it necessary to make comments to me that they never would have said if I were younger. Yes, I’ll admit it, I am a bit more tired on occasion but have been working on staying fit (get on the list for the relaunch of FitMomsover40 coming soon!) Finding work as an older mom has presented its own set of issues. Sometimes, I feel a bit self-conscientious about being “the grandma” at the playground. And, since I have older children, they remind me regularly that I will be about 100 when Baby Beans is just getting out of school!
Camaraderie is good. As a parent, you should look to be part of many different groups of like-minded people. Make sure not to jump into the “ain’t it awful” groups because they are counter productive to your purpose of sharing stories, laughs and advice! When I had my first three daughters, many of my friends had children about the same age so we got together regularly and I joined a Mommy and Me Group through our local church.
Ten years later, the Internet has provided a great source for locating groups as a mom and a parent. Finding groups for moms over 40 has been a bit more difficult but there is only one way to change that! Start a group myself.
At Moms Like Me, you can join the new group, New Old Moms by clicking here.
If you would like to see if there is a local groups for your area, go to the Moms Like Me Home Page to see if there is one. If not, go ahead and start one!
Meetup is another great source for finding groups in any areas that gather on just about any topic. There is a Moms Meetup page for finding local Mom Groups. At this point there wasn’t any Moms over 40 Meetup Groups but look for that to change soon! Don’t be afraid to start one in your area either!
Are you on Face Book? I just went there and started a Face Book New Old Moms Club. Come join us and share some stories, laughs and advice with other Face Book Moms over 40!
If you aren’t on Twitter, go do it now! Twitter is an awesome source for meeting other moms, interacting and becoming part of a community. Follow me at New Old Mom for connections with other moms and definitely join TwitterMoms to stay in tuned with what’s going on with moms on Twitter.
New Old Moms need play dates too but sometimes you have to be the one to make the call, start the group or send out the invitation. I invite you to Join the New Old Moms Club today and look forward to some great conversation between moms of all ages!
P.S. watch for the launch of the New Old Mom sister sites coming soon!
New Old Moms Entrepreneur Club
Fit Moms Over 40
New Old Moms Go Green
The Changed My Life Baby and The Beach Lady
Life. It is amazing how you can be chugging along on one path then….BOOM…hair pin turn takes you in a whole different direction.
I am a true believer in this, “God gives you what you can handled in life”. Just sometimes I wonder if he has my mistaken with someone else?
Let me tell you about the Lady at the Beach and how I came up with the New Old Moms Club. Baby Beans loves the beach. She could spend all day everyday there. A few months back, Beans and I had done our walk and decided to play on the sand hill. She calls it HER mountain. As she ran up and down with me following, I had noticed this old woman watching us.
You know when you can just tell when someone has something to say? Well, she did alright. Once again, I have to tell you, people need to turn their brains on before they speak…Click-Power On Please! Well, here’s how the conversation went…
After complimenting me on how beautiful Baby Beans is, she asked with a confused look, “Is she you little ‘change of life’ baby?” Stop right there. I was 43 at the time and in my opinion at least, I didn’t look old enough to be going through my ‘change of life’.
I quickly replied, “No. She was a vacation souvenior but she definitely has CHANGED my life!”. I guess my annoyed expression and sharp tone said what I was really thinking because the woman, slightly red-faced, replied, “Oh, I see. You’re just one of those…New Old Moms.”
Thankfully (for her), Baby Beans scampered off just out of reach so I had to say good bye to my new found enemy to chase after her. I don’t know if at that point I was more angry or embarassed. New Old Mom? What the heck is that supposed to mean anyway? I am a new Mom over 40 but when did 40 become Old?
When I got home and relayed the story to Jack he just laughed. He told me just to ignore it and reassured me that I had had more energy over with four children, businesses, volunteering, coaching and everything else than some 30 year old moms do.
New OLD Mom. The old part still really annoyed me. I can’t say I didn’t wonder when I found out I was pregnant at 40 how all this would work out. I was scared. Again, I do believe everything does happen for a reason in life.
Well, Baby Beans might not have been a ‘change of life’ baby but she sure did change our life completely…all for the better. She gives me motivation, inspiration and whether I want it or not, she keeps my o my toes!
As far as the ‘New Old Mom’ thing, I am a perpertual glass full person. Hence, you are at the New Old Moms Club and will soon have the opportunity to visit the New Old Moms Entrepreneur Club! Don’t forget to check out Fit Moms Over 40, too!
I am celebrating being over 40 as a new mom, an old mom and as a women! Life may take unexpected turns sometimes. Enjoy the path you are on, whatever it may be and embrace who you are at any age!
A New 90210 Makes Me a Proud Old Mom!
90210 is Back! Can you believe it?
I saw the commercials for it early this morning while watching a movie with my 14 year old daughter. Right after the commercial my MayMay turned to me and asked, “That was a show from ‘back in the day’ right?”
I guess I looked puzzled because she added, “You know, back when you were young?”
90210? “Back in the day?” How old am I anyway?
It was funny that MayMay said this to me when she did because I had just gotten off a call listening to Patti Serrano from Grandma and the Geeks. Patti had just been discussing “old” and the fact that we should be proud to be old!
I AM AN OLD MOM AND I AM PROUD OF IT!
What makes “old” bad? What is the definition of old anyway? When are we officially considered “old”?
The dictionary has many definitions for old so here are two for you:
1. Having lived or existed for a relatively long time; far advanced in years or life.
2. Having or exhibiting the wisdom of age; mature
Personally, I like the second one better!
The bottom line is that there is absolutely nothing wrong with being “old”.
I can tell you that just recently, I did feel my age as I watched my oldest walk through the doors of her new High School.
Serious separation anxiety. Almost as bad as the day she got on the bus for Kindergarten. I guess I was feeling “old”. My first baby was going to High School!
As my tears and that feeling in the pit of my stomach passed, I realized that this is just the beginning. High School is a beginning for her and for me. My being “old” had nothing to do with anything.
Old is just more experienced than young. Taking my “Old” and sharing it with the young around me is what makes me a Mom.
Beverly Hills 90210 was from ‘back in the day’. The original series ran from 1990-2000. I was a little shocked when I found out it was 18 years ago that the series came out. (ok, the old thing again!)
I’ll admit, I did watch the show “back in the day”! As corny as this may sound, I am actually looking forward to watching it again. This time around, I’ll be sharing what I remember from “when I was young” watching the original series with my daughters.
If the show makes a go of it and lasts another 10 years, it will be something we can make the baby part of.
One thing I have learned from being a New Old Mom is that doing things together with your kids, even something as little as watching a silly TV series, fosters conversation, builds relationships and keeps you in touch with your kids.
The New 90210 Series starts September 2nd on CW. Good or bad, I’ll be sharing some of my “old” with my daughters that night and loving every minute of it!
Take the time to enjoy and share your “old” today!
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